What does the word "identity" mean to you?
To me, I believe that first and foremost “identity” is what we give to this world that leaves a positive impact. It’s every word of encouragement we give a hurting friend and every laugh we share with a stranger. Secondly, it’s living boldly because authenticity requires us to sometimes not be “cool.”
How do you define yourself—your identity—personally?
I define myself as a daughter, wife, sister, friend, manager, and mentor. Those are the life roles in which I give the most. Another aspect of my identity is my spirituality and relationship with Jesus because that’s the reason I believe that identity involves so much of what we transfer to others and so little of what we do to build up our own profiles, portfolios, or outward appearance.
When has defining your identity been a struggle?
Losing sight of it or forgetting it? Every day. But when it’s really a problem, I begin to notice any of these 3 things happening:
When has defining your identity been easy?
It’s easiest when I’m surrounded with people who make me feel more secure. It helps to get reassurance from people, and I’m not ashamed of that. It makes my identity a whole lot more comfortable and easy for SURE! However, as I mentioned previously, sometimes our identity is not what’s “cool.”
Do you think of identity as dynamic or stable? Why?
One thing I’ve recently learned about myself is that I’m overly sensitive to others’ facial expressions, body language, and social cues causing me to overreact and jump to conclusions during conversation. Sometimes, this would even paralyze me from responding authentically. I’ve learned to stop, take a breath, and analyze what they just said. What once caused me so much anxiety and stress now has become this uncanny ability to understand the world around me. Now that I’ve grasped it, it’s a super power that allows me to slow down and be myself, for not only my own benefit but to others as well. Although this sounds easy now, I’ll constantly have to be aware of my instinct to overreact, and I’ll have to constantly be aware that this can hinder me from being myself. This is just one example of something I might be fighting for the rest of my life, but when I successfully do, I’m able to be me.
Describe a meaningful, positive connection that has come from Magic Sessions.
When Magic Sessions was at the studio, we all stood in a circle having just written down something we LIKED about ourselves. Many of us had trouble thinking of what we liked about ourselves, but we had NO problem writing down what he DISLIKED about ourselves.
This was powerful within itself because it’s something we all have never done before. We appreciated ourselves in a group setting.
Also, I wrote that I had a 6-pack (which I don’t - so sorry for lying). Nonetheless, I’m grateful Magic Sessions gave me and so many others this authentic, raw experience.